We each have to take responsibility for our own happiness. I understand this. Everytime I book a holiday from work, at some point, I get called in. I can nearly count on this happening. The obvious answer would be to get out of the country so that I, physically, couldn't be called in. But my passport's out of date and I don't think I'll be able to afford a holiday for a long, long time. So I just 'potter about' on my holidays.
The next time I have a holiday I want to ask them not to call me because if they do call me, I will answer the phone. And if I'm asked to go into work and I really have nothing else planned I will say yes. That's just the kind of person I am. My colleague has suggested that it is my responsibilty to not answer the phone and so, therefore, not be put in that position. But then I would feel guilty.
So my colleague is basically saying "don't let yourself be taken advantage of". But no one is saying "Don't take advantage of Hannah". Why am I the one who has to change a part of my personality? Clearly, everyone seems to think that it's ok to take advatange of people. But it is not ok to let yourself be taken advantage of. In other words, it is ok to be a cunt but not ok to be a wet blanket.
Life sucks enough without having to change your values to fit in with people you don't agree with. Meh
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I got called into work once when I was on holiday. It was a real pain but I was told there was a crisis so it didn't count. But I didn't get my holiday back, even though I fixed the problem.
I was once in a position where I had to phone someone who was on holiday because of a crisis. They came in and I appreciated it, I really did. The people who ran the company? They did not give a fig.
Ach, I was in a grump big time but it's bothered me for a while that essentially soft people have to harden themselves to hard people and not the other way round.
Aw that is just too bad. They are taking advantage because they know they can. Time for the white lies! Tell them you are visiting family/friends x number of miles away (ie as far as you can get without needing a passport!)and there is no mobile signal where you are staying!
Thanks Andrea, I think I'll have to be more ruthless. Mobile phones are a curse but yeah I guess it's up to us if we want to be a slave to them.
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